Reconnecting to Iyanla Vanzant

If you don't know who Iyanla Vanzant is, I pray you #Google her, today! She's a force to be reckon with and will happily announce that her force is from the one and only Source!

Back in 2012, I started dating my daughters biological dad and I must admit, I knew then we shouldn't have entered into a relationship. I had been in multiple domestic violence relationships before him and let's just say my dad raised me to be a tough cookie, which is why I may have been so attracted to those that were more so...aggressive. Long story short, Nila's biological dad has a beautiful soul that he can call his God Mom, which is his dad's life partner and she was the very being my soul knew existed, way before we met. Christy Robinson is a powerhouse beyond measures, beautiful, delicate, and forthcoming. She's the essence of what a daughter desires for her mom to be and I am happy to call her Ma! The most amazing thing about this woman is that she doesn't try to outshine anyone, her light is just so bright that it won't go unrecognized and with all she has to share, it doesn't need to. Feeling the need to clarify this point, every woman that I am connected to in my life has something amazing about them, however, Christy was literally that soul sister I knew existed, that mother that I needed, that friend that watched me fall down, helped me get up, and gave me enough space to reinvent myself without holding my past against me or judging me, the mother in love that made me know the type of love my mom in law would bring, and last but not least, the Doula and C Ma that no one else could be to my baby girl, Nila Dawn and I!

When we met it was shortly after then that I started revealing to her my wounds. I was very open and honest with her as she was with me. It was like she knew that it was a safe haven amongst us that would allow us to share all that we had experienced, both our similarities and differences. As we continued to she told me she wanted to take me to Barnes and Noble. Every car ride, conversation, and experience has allowed me to have a paradigm shift, even when I don't want or like it! Some people look at our relationship as fluffy, light, and unrealistic, but they have no idea the trials and tribulations that have come...and gone...and stay gone, at least on her end. If I'm honest, it would take me a day or so to get over something I was mad about with her and I would sometimes allow a past situation to be brought into the future, picking at my wounds, myself. I think she knew this before hand though, I don't know, but I do know that it feels like she did because each book she gifted me with was the very book I needed. The first one was by Iyanla Vanzant, the author, inspirational speaker, spiritual teacher, life coach, and so much more! Peace from Broken Pieces was the first book I read of hers. It was the one that stood out to me when Ma and I went to the bookstore, that day. I knew it would be alot and I didn't know if I was currently ready for it, but I was ok with my intuition leading me to select that book, due to where I was and all the peace I knew I needed at that time.

Excited about the book, I read it...but I couldn't finish it. It was heavy, vivid, and real. It hurt sometimes thinking about my own broken pieces while reading about Iyanla's. Wounded and not fully knowing how to do my work, I shelved the book and would peek at it from time to time to see if my heart was telling me it was time to finish. The time hadn't come until this year, 2018. This time, it came after me doing some of my work on my own. I have been envisioning things for some of my businesses since 2014, the year Nila was born. On and off with my business plans in 2015, I didn't become consistent until 2016, when Nila's biological dad moved to California and I was forced to get a job. I hated riding the train and bus to FedEx, having three hours, everyday, if that with Nila, and feeling like I would never live the life I knew I was meant to live. I knew that I could make more money working for myself than working for them but I didn't enforce my belief until after Nila had a temp that was on and off for a consistent week. My manager at Fedex looked me in the face after I explained to him that my daughter had a fever that she was battling with and told me to put a smile on and get on the floor. I was dying inside at that very moment cause I knew then that no one gave a fuck about my daughter or me in the ways that I would, unfortunately, not even her biological dad. I couldn't smile but I went out there and did my job. It may have been that same day that my grandmother explained to me that my baby's temp was continuing to go up and down. I got home as soon as I could and laid up with her after caring for her. Yet, the next work day had arrived just 5 hours later and I wasn't for any of it. I was crying because I was exhausted and realizing I was trapped between figuring it out for myself and Nila or continuing on "until it got better." I know it gets better but I didn't see it getting better with FedEx so I didn't go back. Since then, I have been working on my business, faithfully.

Loving my work, my clients, witnessing their businesses develop to new levels, having their success stories be a part of my portfolio and all, I know that my purpose is deeper than just business development, specializing in marketing, pr, and media. We all have things that we're good at and then we have what we are made for! I know that I am made to be The Single Mom + Preneur and for The Single Mom + Preneurs. I know that my passion excites people, my words and actions inspire, and my truth helps people choose rather or not they want to dig deeper or stay on their surface. I also know that I am made to connect people, teach, reveal, lead, strategize, and heal. Each day makes me deal with the fact that I'm not doing everything I should be. As time goes by, I hear and see exactly what I need to to know that my role is vital, just as yours is. This is one of the reasons why I am reconnecting with Iyanla. Her messages let you know that there is more to this life than what meets the eye.

She has a way of making you feel your truth. I love knowing that I can do the things I love while being who I am suppose to be and even though it hasn't always been accepted or even understood, it is by those that want to understand.

My reconnection with Iyanla comes through multiple channels, her books, her tweets, and her tv shows. Currently, I'm reading Acts of Faith: Daily Meditations for People of Color. It's a necessity to deal with thyself and others, which are also the segments she's broken the book down into. It's a book you can ready every year from January 1st to December 31st, hence "daily meditations," and it shouldn't get old since everyday and every year should allow us to discover something new about ourselves.

Have you read any of her books, watched her shows, tweeted her? If not, make sure you do so. She's amazing and Ma got to meet her recently. It's funny, she just tweeted, literally at 6 PM EST on March 18, 2018 saying, "fear clouds opportunities, erases possibilities, and limits the ability to move beyond the place in which the mind is stuck." This is quite interesting to me that I'm entering a new chapter in my life with my romance realm and we're also working together. I have some fears about our "inner circle" not being as supportive as we would like and it causing issues. However, I also know that there are forces in this world that work against us when we are elevating and my love life has been begging for much elevation, so I am going to burn my fears and carry forward. I know that deep down there are just as many people that will support us as there are that won't, and I am perfectly ok with that! Iyanla is one of my soul sisters, too, her and Oprah. I call them muva. My mentor Ronne Brown is also and I can't wait until all of us are in the same room. The day is coming, as all the other days I've manifested and envisioned have. That's another power of mine! 😉 We all have them.

What are some of your super powers? Do you share them? Are you willing to share them with the moms at The Single Mom + Preneurs and within our sister organization, @NotAboutStatus? If you or any other women are, email us via info@singlemompreneurs.club with the subject: Sharing My Super Powers.

If not, that's ok too, it takes time. Just make sure you connect with us at our events and online during our biweekly calls so you don't miss out. We'll share some of Iyanla's dopeness and women that are apart of our community.

Any books that you would suggest? We have a book that we give all moms when they become members with us and meet us at our event. I'd love to share it here but you wouldn't have anything to look forward to then! 😘